Pride goeth before a fall, says the adage, and nowhere is that more true than here this week. I posted earlier this week that I was proud of M1. Now, I am full of disappointment, and because I blog all my life - the good, the bad, and the ugly - I need somewhere to vent my frustration.
Ahh, the anonymity of a blog and the kindness of readers. I know (OK, I hope) you'll sympathize, even if you can't really understand.
I discovered yesterday that M1 has been sneaking into my room at night - AGAIN - and stealing the remote - AGAIN - and using it to try to watch TV in the middle of the night.
Now, Oz and I have parental controls set so that the kids can only watch TV during normal, human-functioning hours, so he wasn't able to get anywhere with that, but apparently he spent a good chunk of time learning how to delete game history and playing Wii games. *sigh*
Then today he asked for his math worksheet. We use MUS, and I use the 'test' pages as a final review of the material in each lesson. He asked for the test. I handed it to him. Five minutes later, he handed it back, complete and utterly correct, which is UNHEARD of for him, especially since it was neatly written and there was a plethora of difficult multiplication involved (squaring 63, for instance, as part of finding the area of a circle), which I know takes him several minutes to complete by itself.
So I asked him to hand over his scratch paper notebook. As I flip through it, knowing what I'm going to find, I thought I'd give him a chance to 'fess up.
"You're cheating, aren't you?" I asked.
"M1, there's no way you could finish that work that quickly. Show me your work."
"It's... all throughout the book. It's not just on one page." (This is probably true, as I know he does flip around when working, but I wasn't buying it today.)
"M1, did you come in here in the middle of the night and get the answer book and cheat?"
About that time I found the page. Numbered neatly 1-18 with all the answers listed next to it, the evidence was staring me in the face.
"M1, what's this?"
"Oh, that's just the answers copied down before I put them on the paper."
I do not punish for bad 'grades.' It only shows me that we need more practice on a concept. M1 KNOWS THIS. So I just don't understand.
I simply don't understand the lying, the cheating, the sneaking, the stealing, the hiding, and - like I said - the lying. I don't understand how he can want to be treated like an adult and be left alone... and then turn around and act like a toddler who has to be monitored 24/7. There's pushing boundaries, and then there's this. This is beyond pushing boundaries. And I'm lost.
Pass the Bailey's. I need a stiff'ner.